Listen without rushing to give advice
Whena friend wants to talk about something on their mind
Find a low-distraction place. Let them finish, reflect what you understood and check it. Ask whether they want listening, ideas or practical help.
- Try saying
- It sounds like the change has been exhausting. Have I got that right?
Start tiny
Listen through one complete thought.
SafetyAttention need not mean eye contact. Respect silence and privacy; keep essential alerts available.
Greater Good in Action, Active Listening; instructions adapted from Markman, Stanley & Blumberg (1994). Read the source ↗ Editorial friendship practice; timing and adaptations are suggested starting choices, not tested prescriptions. Weger et al. (2014), The relative effectiveness of active listening in initial interactions. International Journal of Listening,28(1),13–31. Read the source ↗ The study supports feeling understood in brief conversations; lasting friendship effects are not established by this card.
Growth: Practices that need preparation, a recurring slot or a useful tool.
