Accept a repair and return to the issue
Whenyour partner tries to soften an ordinary disagreement
If ready, acknowledge a sincere restart, apology or request to pause, then name what still needs addressing. Resume gently when both are ready; accepting the opening does not require instant forgiveness.
Start tiny
Say, “I hear you trying. Let’s slow down.”
When it slips
If either is overwhelmed, agree a break and a specific return time. Return or send a timely update.
SafetyIf you fear retaliation or feel unsafe, skip joint exercises and seek confidential individual support.
Zach Brittle, R is for Repair, The Gottman Institute. Read the source ↗ . Practitioner repair method. Parsons et al. (2020), How to Kiss and Make-Up (or Not!), Read the source ↗ , provides observational recovery context, not validation of this script.
Growth: Supporting habits that improve the conditions for useful repetitions: preparation, consistency or necessary recovery.
