Stop Hitting and Offer a Safe Alternative
Whenyour child hits or tries to hit someone
Gently block further harm and say a brief limit: “I won’t let you hit.” Offer a safe next action, such as moving beside you or asking for a turn, and help them begin. Protect the other person first.
Why it works
“Don’t” leaves an unfinished instruction. Your child still needs a next move.
Start tiny
Block harm and say the short limit.
What you’ll notice
You have a clear response when words alone cannot stop a collision.
When it slips
If you launch into a lecture, return to the brief limit and the next safe action. Talk about the event later, when everyone can listen. Adapt: Birth–1: redirect unsafe grasping gently; no obedience expectation. 1–3: block and give concrete alternative. 3–6: practice a short request after calm.
SafetyUse only the least necessary gentle intervention to prevent immediate harm. No hitting, shaking, painful restraint or humiliation. Seek appropriate support for persistent danger.
CDC. Tips for Creating Rules (2026). Read the source ↗ Practice guidance for toddlers and preschoolers; no infant obedience expectation.
Growth: Practices that need preparation, a recurring slot or a useful tool.
