Foundation
Tell your partner what attracts you
Whenyou notice something you find attractive about your partner
Say one true, specific thing you find attractive: their laugh, an expression, their style or the way they move. Use words they enjoy; let it stand without requesting anything back.
Start tiny
Say one sincere attraction aloud.
When it slips
If appearance comments feel unwelcome, name a quality such as their wit or confidence.
SafetyRespect preferences about body comments and privacy.
Evidence grade CPractitioner method or editorial idea
The Gottman Institute, The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps. Read the source ↗ . Editorial invitation to express attraction in a welcome form; relationship-attention framework, not evidence that a compliment produces desire.
Foundation: The load-bearing practices you return to. Build the base and keep it in play.
